With federal court after federal court ruling the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional in recent days, and with the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals this week reaffirming its ruling that Prop 8 is unconstitutional, do gay marriage foes see the walls closing in on them?

Maggie Gallagher, co-founder of the National Organization for Marriage, told me in an interview this week that she found it “kind of insulting” that the 9th Circuit decided not to have a larger panel of the court rehear the case, possibly sending it to the Supreme Court, because she and others put a lot of “time and treasure” into getting Prop 8 passed.

Statements like that are what lead people to believe that she and other opponents of gay marriage just don’t get how deeply offensive the campaign against marriage equality is to gays and lesbians as well as to millions of other Americans. She instead sees herself and those opposed to marriage equality as the true victims, and events this week only seem to have solidified that view.

But, Gallagher says, “I think about gay people as my fellow citizens, my neighbors, my friends, for some of us, family members.” Gallagher was on my radio program, participating in a debate I moderated between her and scholar and gay marriage advocate John Corvino, about a book they co-wrote, Debating Same-Sex Marriage (It’s surely the only book ever that will feature both Rick Santorum and Dan Savage praising it on the back jacket.)

I noted to her that she speaks in that way, about gay people as fellow citizens who should have rights (even if not marriage), when she is on shows like mine and on CNN and other mainstream outlets. But when she goes on Christian media outlets she talks about homosexuality as something that is an “unfortunate thing” and sinful.

“I think it’s not true that I go on some stations and have

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